Traditionally it has had always been men asking out women for date.  But in the contemporary age of feminism and an egalitarian society, women too can muster up the courage to ask out a guy they like. Yes, you will be having lots of butterflies in your tummy. But don’t freak out- remember you are a smart, strong and empowered lady and you can definitely ask a man out.

The post below offers some cool hacks to ask a man out.

Start with small tit-bits

It’s not suggested to hit the rocket straight. If you go to any top relationship advice site like shallononline, you will only be advised to not to pop the question out of the blue. It would be better to start things with small light conversation. If your crush belongs to your office or class or friend circle- well and good. You will plenty of chances to meet him and strike a conversation. But if he is not, try to find him over social network or other possible avenues. Try to form an easy-breezy friendship first. Then, after a couple of weeks, if he seems to be interested in talking to you, ask him out to catch up in person. Mention it would be just two of you.

Start with coffee

If you are struggling to find where to take your crush out- be safe with coffee. A coffee date is always a great idea for a first date. It’s not going to take too much of time which means there will be no awkward silences. It’s safer than hitting a bar as a coffee date eliminates the risks of getting sloshed out on your favorite poison. Most importantly, the entire idea of coffee date is harmless. If he hesitates, just say- “come on, it’s just a coffee dude…chill!”

Never seek help from friends

It’s okay to ask your friend for the name and other basic details of your crush. But do not ever make your friend ask him out on date on your behalf. It would be a huge turn-off. Remember you are a strong and independent woman who can do her jobs herself. In fact, if you can muster the courage to ask out a man yourself, it will only leverage your stand before him.

Use “extra ticket” hack

Try to find his passion and hobbies. Is he as much fond of wine tasting as you are? Do you have an extra ticket of major baseball match and he is a die-hard fan of the game? Have you got a couple pass for the upcoming EDM festival? Well, if you have got an extra ticket for something that you think he will enjoy- just tell him. Chances are high that he will love to join you.

Be positive

It’s natural to anticipate the trauma of getting rejected by your crush. But don’t let such negative thoughts deter you from a new beginning. Be positive, proceed with best of intentions and everything will fall into place.

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